It’s important to note that the only differences between people rely not so much on genes, because in that respect we are 99.99% the same, but they rely mostly upon cultural, societal, or environmental differences.
A person’s own experiences will determine very much how they feel about certain things, how they react to certain things, and how people achieve certain things.
It is this fact that leaves me to conclude that if everyone were put in my shoes, and has seen the exact same things that I’ve seen, they would feel the exact same way as I do about everything.
One could argue that everybody feels differently about different things, and not everyone makes the same choices, but remember, people’s choices are 99% based on experiences that they’ve had..the things they “know.”
If you take someone, and completely replace what they’ve already seen, and put in it’s place what someone else has been through, they will react almost exactly the same way.
The reason I know this is that there is no legitimate reason anyone can give me for this not to be true. If every single aspect of a person’s life were inherited by another person, from the start, hypothetically speaking of course, that person will make all of the same choices.
This really says something for the human potential. Think about all of the great people throughout history. The greatest ones, yes may have been smart enough to figure out what the right choices were, but the chances are that they didn’t always know, and they had to make a lot of mistakes, just like everyone else, to actually figure out what the right choices were, in order to be successful.
Also, chances are that if you would have put anyone else in the exact circumstances, they would have learned the same lessons from those mistakes, at least eventually.
The almost surprising thing is that the successful people are usually the ones faced with the worst circumstances. The human survival drive is one of the deepest drives accessible by our nature, and when needed, people will literally do anything to survive. The reason the people with the worst circumstances are usually the successful ones though is that they were the ones willing to take the risk. What else did they have to lose?
It might sound cliche but the most important step is the first one. To decide to take the risk, and never turn back. But risks can aren’t just going all in on a straight draw. They are usually calculated in this context, and the important ones are usually drawn out long enough to see which decisions to make, before they actually need to be made, or at least you have more time to think them through.
Too often people settle for mediocre when their dreams are staring them right in the face, almost as if from behind a 2-way mirror. People that need to survive break straight through that glass to see the other side, and they don’t stop until they get everything they ever wanted from life..and they deserve it.
It’s just sad that not everyone accesses that innate drive, that when used correctly, can secure a person’s dreams and future, when accompanied with patience and resilience.
Remember, if you have a dream..something you long for but have been told it’s impossible..look at those people, and smile, and say to yourself “I’m going to do that.” Anyone can do anything; and if the circumstances aren’t present right away, keep believing..trust me, somehow, if you want it enough, it will come. Anyone can change their circumstances.
My mother comes from a very poor family, who sometimes even struggled for food because of an alcoholic dad who left with all the money when she was 4. She worked throughout and after high school, in order to put her older brothers and sisters in college. Then later in her life, after getting laid off, with no college education herself, she decided to start her own business, doing public relations for pharmaceutical companies. She didn’t know what she was doing, but she hired people who did, and she had great social skills..enough to secure her first client from the beginning. Now her company is worth millions, and there she sits, the head of a successful 12 year old public relations firm, run entirely by women, from their homes, and she was able to buy her mother her first house.
If anybody taught me a lesson about circumstances and possibilities, it was her.
We are all different, but we are all the same, and we are powerful.
Written by: Dante Cullari Founder & President Beat-Play, LLC